Tesla fans are annoying, but it is absolutely valid that the safety bar for self-driving cars can't be "100% perfectly safe" - it needs to be "safer than the alternative".
The problem with both this example, and the AWS one (it needs to have better availability than your personal home-spun solution, and it does), is that people are amazing at deluding themselves.
"Yes, cars are dangerous, because other people can't drive. But I'm a better than average driver"
"Yes, other people will build unreliable systems. But I know how to architect for my use case and ensure that for my needs the availability will be higher than AWS's"
Both are true* in the micro sense and false in the macro sense.
* Not really. 88% of americans think they are "above average" drivers.