I think that is a little myopic.
Older buyers that are downsizing can make an excess profit in that situation. Although perhaps if excess numbers are downsizing to the same retirement homes, then maybe the retirement home owners win instead.
Also if you have a second investment property, you are definitely winning.
Finally, as house prices go up, you do end up with more equity (perhaps way more equity because a mortgage is geared lending). More equity can make a huge difference if you have any economic shocks, or if you care about passing on your equity to your children. Let’s say you have 10% equity in a $500k home, which then appreciates to $1M. If you die, you now have 550k equity, which is 11% house deposits for 5 children, or 27% deposits for each of two children. Not a bad trick.
I think a better way to think about it is that you need to own 1 house. If you don’t own a house, then you are shorting the housing market. If you own 2 then you are long the housing market. If you are a couple with kids, then you need to consider the chance of divorce (owning 1 home each is conservative, owning 1 home together is risky), and consider how much you want to give to your kids. Due to moral hazard I can’t see how you could insure against the risk of divorce.