Your contempt for web devs seems to correlate with your lack of understanding of how the web works. Responses like yours make me cringe, in how uninformed they are, despite trying to sound smart.
IP addresses can and will be exposed in any situation that a user connects to a service - it’s a fundamental property of the web. You cannot tell Government agencies, esp. when they have a 3-country-approved warrant, that “we don’t know how to”.
If you terminate a connection at the load balancer, they will make you monitor it. If that’s not owned by you, they will send the warrant onto your cloud provider or whoever.
