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0 pointscodetrotter4y ago0 comments

> The biggest problem with tinder, at the moment, seems to be people using the "passport" system

Yeah tell me about it :p I live in Norway and about the only people I regularly match with are people from South America. And in a way that’s neat, they are nice people and I want to go there some day. But I really wish I’d be shown to more people near me so I can actually meet someone IRL and have it turn into something meaningful. I cannot afford to travel right now and even if I could, COVID-19 is still making it difficult.

All I want is to meet some women, hang out with them and find someone that we both enjoy being around each other.

I’ve had very few matches with people actually from my country in the past year and in every year prior.

I’ve been to a grand total of one date in the past year. And I’ve had proper text conversations with maybe a handful of people from my country at most.

Maybe it’s a sign that I should earn some money that would allow me to leave this country for somewhere else, idk.

One thing is for sure, Tinder is just not my arena in this country. So I’ve uninstalled it for like the 20th time. We’ll see how long it goes before I install it again, so I can continue meaninglessly swiping on people from my country that are not going to even see my profile, just like it always is save for a few people a year.

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stevekemp4y ago

I prefer OkCupid, because people have space to write a lot more, and you get a better idea of personality. On Tinder it is all about the photos, and little about the personality until you've matched.

But it has to be said I've had far more meetups with tinder than anything else. Here in Helsinki it seems to be pretty popular. Maybe I stand out because I'm a foreigner, wearing a kilt, but I guess I've been quite lucky in that I get matches pretty frequently.

(Though I go through phases where I ignore it for a few months, then use it for a few hours every day in a week.)