The problem is that on an individual, person to person basis, people like me owe people like you a respectful hearing of what you think America is and how you think it should be and understand - this is the important thing - how you got there before telling you that it never was and why it should never be. And just flip that to whichever one of us has the facts on their side. But we don't have those conversations. We only relate to each other insofar as we signal our political affiliations.