I mean we all know what the solution is.
Get an agreement with your neighbor.
You could have shared mesh network, each (you, neighbor) with it's own vlan. You both win, great coverage and bandwith for both, and your AP's wouldn't fight (and cheaper too, since you need less overall AP's).
If talking is out, then you are only left with suboptimal options. Depending where you live mobile 5/4g might also be an option.