I was seduced by my parents to join a Judo club so I could stand up to myself ( this works wonders ).
Last year, I confronted a new millenial neighbour of mine repeatedly on her behaviour of biking on the sidewalk. The biggest problem was she was doing blind corners as well. There are small children here playing, we have elderly with walking aids. It was dangerous.
She called the police on me.
And if there is a confrontation, they'll report you to their teacher ( police ).
While when I grew up, when I misbehaved in traffic, say concerning a taxi(cab), the driver would stop, make his opinion loudly heard, perhaps accompanied by a threat of violence ( this actually happened ).
But now we are in a situation where neighbours can not confront each other anymore, and the preferred course of action is a mediator ( teacher / police ).
Of course that's not what you mean. I suppose you mean that instead of crying for help from the teacher she should have just swallowed it up and obeyed you.
But it goes both ways. Imagine you had a teenage daughter and she'd be accused of something, in her mind unrightfully, by some asshole neighbor. Would you like her to just swallow it up and do what he says? Or fight back, risking injury? Or call a mediator? That's the point of view of your neighbor.
If anything growing up with bullies teaches is that in the long run, only standing up to them works. But that's not what you'd actually how you'd have liked your millenial neighbor to react to you.
(I'm not saying you are the bully here. I'm totally with you on calling her out. But your "growing up with bullies" analogy is way off here and you need to consider all sides before drawing broad conclusions.)
> No, I am saying it seems like some millenials seem unaware of the possible consequences of their behaviour to others and to themselves.
Yes, this happens with every generation. Now what does that have to do with the idea that "bullying made society better"? I mean, you know that quite a lot of people have serious psychological consequences from bullying, some people have even killed themselves, right? It's not something to joke about, and if (and that's a big if) the price to pay to stop bullying is having someone call the police on a discussion, I would gladly pay it a hundred times over.
Well, maybe you should try talking calmly next time, then maybe others feel not threatened enough to call the police.
Otherwise you have the right to call the police if she insists on being a threat to the children around.
Besides, I bet you are fully aware that the point GP was making was that his training made him dare say something where he before wouldn't.
"Besides, I bet you are fully aware that the point GP was making was that his training made him dare say something where he before wouldn't. "
And I know a lot of people, bolstering their martial arts skills to impress and supress people. Once or twice I had to restrain some.
Still - repeatedly engaged talking to someone who don't wants to be talked with - can be defined as harrasment either way. And close to self justice in this case.
I know the urge for it sometimes. But .. that just means trouble.
(side note: Judo is not very effective as self defence)
