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0 pointsunethical_ban5y ago0 comments

I'm along this spectrum, but not nearly so far away.

I like chat programs used as email - that is, non-real-time. I have lowered my anxiety a lot by realizing that texts are not realtime in my life 98% of the time, and to treat them accordingly: Checked on upon occasion. Don't stress about whether the person on the other end will be upset if you don't get back right away.

Planning something? Need someone right away? Set the expectation of response beforehand or just call them.

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airhead9695y ago

That seems like a good, common-sense strategy.

Textual for details, and not for human clarification. It's often a terrible idea to wrestle in emotional or clarification contexts without hearing or seeing someone else in realtime.

Attention is a finite resource that ought to vary with actual urgency; hopefully, with fewest emergencies.

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