Child-care isn't an option due to COVID, and since I work freelance while my wife has a full-time job, I've been the de facto Mr. Mom, squeezing in work whenever I have a free 10-30-minute block—which isn't often.
By the time he goes to bed, I'm fried from taking care of him all day, and entering into a productive 'deep work'-state is nigh impossible.
Advice to anyone considering having kids: try to live near a parent, and/or plan for childcare if you wish to get 'deep work' done. For caring for a child is, itself, 'deep work'.
I used to be a big time night owl, with hours of productive coding possible after 11PM. After kids, that was impossible as you described. Now, I get up at 5:30-6:00 without an alarm after many years of dragging myself through the day after setting an alarm.
I found it much easier to drag myself through dinner, bath, and bedtime reading and then go to bed myself than to do all that and then try to do my computer work.
In most scenarios I've heard on his podcast, there's some scheduling between the parents around who's working and who's taking care of the child when. If you're full-time on kid duty, you don't do deep work.
It's a good thing he's cute!
I didn't understand what a kid was until she (4yo) corrected the flawed logic of something I just said. Then I realized that all those sacrifices (career included) were worth it.
It gets better once you can use kindergartens... BTW, old parents are not an easy solution in covid times. They are population at risk.
I hope some of this is useful to you. Now I have to prepare some milk to the kid that is dancing around my desk.
If I missed my walks I was always scattered and it didn't matter if I tried to go again later because everything was out of rhythm because I didn't get the new boost at the right time. I think that lunch time is most people's separator (hell the article says afternoon peak and morning peak suggesting they cradle the noon) but they take it for granted because they try to slave to the clock. rather than slaving to the clock they should strive to be most productive and useful which includes their mental state as well
People cannot be labeled as productive. A company, a process, a group, but not individuals.
This paranoia about procrastination and laziness has an awful impact on how we live.
Motivation is complicated. Please watch the rsa animate video on motivation.
If I would be forced to do lots of unimportant things, I’d rather changed job.