In terms of a pc simulator I have used Velocidrone which everyone says has the most realistic physics but is not necessarily the prettiest.
You might also find the following site useful as a shopping guide: - https://www.fpvknowitall.com/fpv-shopping-list-controller-an...
It's an addictive and fun hobby for which I'm still in the initial stages of.
Happy flying!
Edit: first time posting / trying to format properly.
