It helps to literally write out your own desires and wants of things that you can do yourself (versus other people doing) when it comes to these types of situations.
For example in a similar situation I might say "I want to make a case to my manager that the team lead isn't treating me fairly" or I might say "I want to be less anxious at work" or I might say "I want to find reasons not to leave my job" or I might say "I just want to do my job with no problems or issues" or I might say "I want to learn how to approach my team lead with this problem" or possibly (and this is something I've done) "I want to feel better venting to others"