How to Get People to Like You (opens in new tab)

These are reasonable suggestions, I would add that You should be aware that some people are more difficult to read than others, so You shouldn't expect immediate feedback on if your actions are working. Also know when someone just doesn't like You, accept it and cut your losses, move on, maybe they will come around but there is no way to force someone to like You.

The only other thing I have found has given me great success is saying YES when You are invited to social activities. If every time a person asks You to do something, You have an excuse not to and turn them down, they will stop asking. If on the other hand You say Yes, You will find people will start asking You first.

You may be aware of research about those scam letters from Africa that are trying to get people to send money. They seem so foolish: "What kind of an idiot would buy into this?"

But it turns out that it's intentional. They want to filter out at the outset those who will terminate the relationship once they figure out what's going on.

This strikes me as similar. I am one of those people who has a visceral (and bad) reaction to someone trying to schmooze me, compliment me, etc.

BUT your tactics will draw in the type of person who is likely to succumb to those tactics, and perhaps that kind of person is easier to manipulate and profit from! So it could well be a good strategy.

Why should you care about being likeable? It’s a valid question. In reality, this isn’t just a vanity metric or something to make you feel good. Likeable people make more money, live longer, have more opportunities, and have more success in their love lives.. Everything has to do with human relationships at a certain point, so it’s really worth investing some effort in improving your likeability.

In this post, I'm sharing tips I've learned the hard way and by poring over other content around the topic. I hope it helps you!

Listen better. I mentioned how talkers tend to be more likable, and that’s true. Sometimes, over-communicating puts people at ease. But it’s also important to pause once in a while and listen. Good communicators take a breath once in a while! Likable people are always listeners who are curious to (genuinely) learn new things. The best communicators talk and talk–and then listen for a response. That makes them an office favorite.