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I think it's a noble goal to genuinely care about more poeple.

> Like if I can pull up something from the last convo that'd help.

I can relate to this. Every time I'm alone with someone, my brain goes to overdrive and I ask myself questions like "what can we talk about" , "what common interests do we have", "how can I make him/her laugh", "what about this person that I don't know yet that I can ask" just to 'develop' the relationship.

But after a while of doing this, and observing myself doing this, I get burnt out and go 'f it, who cares'. If I cared about this person, it wouldn't feel such a grind to create/maintain this relationship.

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BiosElement5y ago

For what it's worth, the answer "Who cares" is I do. Personally, I don't want to be the jerk who can't be bothered to remember names, so I choose to care.

Having said that, as long as you're not a jerk about it, which I don't think you are, I think it's personally fine to admit you've forgotten my name and ask, I'm not that memorable! :)

I think this just shows the value differences we each have from our upbringing and mentors, so it's very interesting.

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