> I don't think it's gatekeepy to say that not everything has to be attractive to literally everyone.
It really is gatekeepy to keep something that is only attractive to a very select group of people.
> Those that grew up with mailing lists naturally find it more comfortable for them.
Yeah, which is exactly why I called it a massive red flag. It's the unwillingness to suffer short-term discomfort over long-term benefit of new contributors and overall better user experience and accessibility.