That's not what I'm saying at all and it's dumbfounding to me that I am getting such a pile on to try to shut me up by probably all men trying to claim there's no sexism here. My framing actually assumes positive intent gone wrong and suggests that if there is positive intent, this is not a best practice.

Entire audience hears "Some whiny bitch reading in sexism where there is none and that needs to be shut down cuz reasons."

And therein lies the problem.

But I promised myself I wasn't going to be dragged into some shitshow. I knew no matter how carefully I worded it, it was likely to get ugly pushback and not get good faith engagement.

So I'm out of here. Thanks.