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0 pointskomali26y ago0 comments

Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

Let go of pride and ego.

Find something the person may be very interested in, and get them talking about it.

"I can't help but notice that watch, can I ask you about it?" (Anybody asking about my watch is an instant friend. WHY WONT ANYBODY NOTICE MY WATCHES??)

"This might be weird but I need a new barber, where do you get your haircut?"

"Yooo where did you get that sweater?"

"You carrying golf clubs around the city? There a course I don't know about?"

"Is that a defcon sticker?"

Something unique about them. Find it, ask about it. Easy to practice. Just do the find it step to random people during your commute.

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cmdshiftf46y ago· 4 in thread

If some randomer approached me in public, especially on my commute, and dropped any of the above lines or any others about some material item I had on me, I’d write them off as a grifter looking for an angle to play.

Especially the “yoooo dawg lemme see that watch!” kind of vernacular.

As such I refuse to believe any of your recommendations come from personally successful experiences.

komali2OP6y ago

Lol read a crowd. If I was in a group of seventy year old white people I probably would adopt a different vernacular.

> As such I refuse to believe any of your recommendations come from personally successful experiences.

K, well, I'm not gonna work hard to prove anything lmao. Sounds like you just don't hang with a massively diverse group of people.

cmdshiftf46y ago

That’s quite an insecurity-laced kneejerk reaction you’ve posted there.

A tip from an adult who didn’t stumble into this industry from the recruitment sidelines: Keep your “yoooo dawg swaggy swag brooo!” stuff to your non-work friends. Women cite this immature brogrammer nonsense and the “culture” it creates as one of the reasons they’re put off from joining, or as a reason for leaving, the tech industry.

I’d encourage you to try to do better.

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NortySpock6y ago

This only really should be used in parties or social events where there is a host, like a dinner party at someone's house. Or a work office lunch, or meet-and-greet.

You wouldn't use it out and about on the street or the bus, unless you were really personable.

komali2OP6y ago

I can and have. A smile and a genuine question can go a long way.

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