Not that this excuses bad behavior, but on the grand scheme of things, to miser about what was or wasn't some purposeful sexual gesture from a Holocaust survivor decades later seems petty.
When I was 10 years old some dirty old man (apparently known around the neighbourhood for such things) tried to touch my pee-pee. If it was some important sexual incident, sure I'd be scarred. But for something like that, besides some anxiety at the time, I could not care less then or today...
And your lack of trauma over a type of event does not give you carte blanche to trivialize the emotions and expressions of someone that was.
No, but it means things are not objectively traumatising, it's what we make of them, and that people can over-react (and perhaps under-react).
>And your lack of trauma over a type of event does not give you carte blanche to trivialize the emotions and expressions of someone that was.
Of course.
But the individual personal experience of something should not be sacred from criticism, especially when it moves from personal to a more public accusation or demand.
In other words: some people might feel (or claim they feel) traumatised over whatever. We shouldn't as a society always take their claims at face value and accept their subjective impact as necessary valid -- just because a subject called it so. Emotions can be bogus too.
