Is the post otherwise good? If so, Google/quack/whatever for ze pronoun and see what comes up. Search engines are better at surfacing explanations for them these days.
In practice, you won't encounter them often, and it should be obvious if they're a troll. Those should be reported and otherwise ignored. You can worry yourself sick with these hypotheticals. You are more dynamic than you give yourself credit for.
Do you typically refuse to learn new things because some people who know those things are toxic assholes? I never would have learned anything about computers, writing, or music with a policy like that.
You do you. I'll be over here learning new ways to expand on the human experience.
Fun fact: googling "apache attack helicopter pronoun" turns up a few things, and it may not be immediately obvious to all good-faith searchers that it's bogus.
