If you are panicked, and are selling your ETF, your evil twin is panicked, and selling all their stocks.
This causes the exact same downwards pressure on the market.
I don't buy an ETF because I want someone to do financial malarkey with my money. I buy it because I want to own stocks, and I can't be assed to deal with my own brokerage account. Besides the convenience aspect, there is zero difference between the two.