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0 pointsbenatkin6y ago0 comments

That's a problem for the managers to solve, and they can solve it by reducing the number of business dinners they do with men, if they can't figure out a good way to do business dinners with women. The work hours and the options for dining near the office might mean that it's too difficult to have a work dinner that isn't too cozy, and if it is, so be it. It's entirely their responsibility to have management practices that aren't sexist.

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stale20026y ago

Ok, but thats just screwing over everyone, right? Is that really the kind of "equality" that we want?

benatkinOP6y ago

No, the ideal is an open and transparent workplace, where you can go to dinner with anybody and not worry about getting in trouble, because there are casual enough places to eat, where you don't feel like you're on a date when you have dinner with someone there, unless you're Mike Pence. And where that isn't available, you find another activity for mentorship besides a work dinner. If your suburban office park only has one dining place nearby and it has candles, do a work lunch instead, with food you brought.

stale20026y ago

Sure that's all well and good.

But what you suggested was that people change their behavior regarding other coworking relationships that are otherwise working fine for both parties.

If both parties are totally comfortable with whatever dinner plans that they have with each other, then who are you to go in and tell them not to?

You suggested that men change their mentorship behavior that is otherwise working fine with their male mentees.

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stale20026y ago

Ok, but thats just screwing over everyone, right? Is that really the kind of "equality" that we want?

benatkinOP6y ago

stale20026y ago

Sure that's all well and good.

But what you suggested was that people change their behavior regarding other coworking relationships that are otherwise working fine for both parties.

If both parties are totally comfortable with whatever dinner plans that they have with each other, then who are you to go in and tell them not to?

You suggested that men change their mentorship behavior that is otherwise working fine with their male mentees.

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