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0 pointsgwright7y ago0 comments

Huh? You were labeling people as incompetent and supporting the OP's idea they were idiots. I was asking for empathy and understanding that people can make mistakes. And when I tell you to stop, I'm the rude one?

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blotter_paper7y ago· 2 in thread

Yeah, telling somebody to cease communication and then asking them a question is absolutely rude. I think we're all incompetent to varying degrees in different domains, I don't think it's rude to express that. From my perspective I don't feel I was rude at all in this exchange until my last message with the snarky "hint" part, but I was okay with that since you had essentially just told me to shut up.

gwrightOP7y ago

You are misinterpreting my very terse "Just stop". If I were to expand it: "Just stop trying to convince me that people who make 'mistakes' can only be incompetent, malicious, or idiots"

That is not the same thing as "Just stop communicating" or "shut up". I shouldn't have been so terse. Without the verbal cues you made a different assumption about what I was trying to say.

blotter_paper7y ago

In this context I don't really see a difference between "stop making your point about the subject we've been communicating about" and "stop communicating in general." Am I supposed to talk about the weather, or engage in a lengthy meta-discussion about talking about the subject we've been talking about?

I never used the term idiots, that's you putting someone else's words in my mouth.

It's hard for me to imagine how a person can make a mistake in a given domain without being at least bit incompetent in it, hence my point about competence/incompetence existing on a continuum.

Edit: ...and if the person were malicious, it wouldn't be a mistake to begin with.

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