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0 pointsHeroOfAges7y ago0 comments

> Men, especially clients, often forgot my name. E.g. Janice vs Janet vs Jan (none of these my real name, but you get the idea. The point is that I wasn't important enough to these men to remember.)

Are you aware this kind of thing happens to everyone? Do you expect people to remember your name just because you're a woman? Or would you rather they remembered your name because you've accomplished something beyond the ordinary? I'm a black male, by the way.

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jurassic7y ago

I’m not talking about one-off meetings where the name doesn’t stick. That happens to everyone, of course. I’m talking about working on projects with the same group of people over a period of months. I have not seen the Matts and Ryans of the world have this problem.

llama0527y ago

I don't think there is anyway to know if that's because you're female or not. It could be personality, politics, among many different factors. I think it's unfair to assume that people don't remember your name because you're a female.

I've worked with people for almost a year without remembering their name, because I'm awful with names. They were also very quiet and introverted, rarely said much and I suspect that had something to do it.

roguecoder7y ago

Hey, so I'm sure you didn't mean it this way, but this comment sounds like gaslighting: a woman told you about her experience, and you immediately disbelieved her and told her she is not only incorrect about her experience but that it must be her fault for being "quiet and introverted"?

I recommend starting out by assuming she has knowledge and experiences you don't have access to and learning from it, rather than trying to explain away this new information.

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sethammons7y ago

I've been called Sean more times than I can count and by people I've been acquainted with for a long time, including higher ups. I can't imagine "Seth" is _that_ rare.

sizzle7y ago

Correlation =/ causation

You could be experiencing this phenomenon for a handful of reasons, none of which being the reason you stated.

hhjinks7y ago

Tough shit. Some people just don't manage to attach names to faces, and it sucks way more for us than for you.

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