You're talking at cross-purposes.
To get a sense of how people are interacting with the software you have to watch them interact with the software. The moment you ask them a question about UX you'll begin to get low quality input that you can't trust:
* user is expressing an exaggerated desire for some esoteric feature that nobody else would use or discover
* user is repeating what they think should be decent design
* user is agreeing with a criticism they don't understand because they want to appear knowledgeable
All of those and many other problems go away when you just watch somebody use an interface.