No, it’s not normal.
But it has nothing to do with masculinity. It’s not normal for women to be treated like that in the workplace either.
Yes, in the workplace ultimately your boss has the last word and you have to do what they say (and perform up to their expectations and meet reasonable deadlines) to keep your job.
Even a good boss may sometimes ask you to stay late to meet a deadline that has meaningful consequences for the business. And if you’ve shown a pattern of poor performance or behavior and have not shaped up after multiple calm discussions, they may berate you. Enforcing deadlines and making sure you’re meeting expectations is your boss’s job.
But that doesn’t mean it’s ok for them to bully you. Public humiliation; speaking in a way that belittles you; that starts to cross a line.
I’ve had otherwise good bosses who would occasionally make tone-deaf “jokes”. In one case, they made me uncomfortable because they stemmed from a culture that’s less familiar to me, where people (mostly men) express fondness by making fun of one another’s quirks. I put up with that until they crossed a line; then let him know I didn’t find that funny, and he stopped.
It’s not entirely clear from your post which side of the line this falls on. If it’s the wrong side, my suggestion would be to find a better place to work.
