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0 pointsTimmy_C15y ago0 comments

I've heard this opinion before and it really bothers me. It starts to turn relationships into business deals or transactions. I feel like that is a really selfish way of looking at the world.

It shouldn't be about what you can get from others but rather what you have to give.

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TGJ15y ago· 2 in thread

Everything is a transaction at the simplest level. You have friends because it makes you feel good. You wouldn't keep them if it made you feel bad would you?

You give because you think it's right and when you do something right, it makes you feel good.

I do agree with you that everything would be so much better if everyone went around giving but in this world not everyone does. Since some cheat, the fairest is to deal in transactions.

Or my favorite thought of the day.

If I have but one life to live, why not live for me?

Psyonic15y ago

What about children? You wouldn't keep them around if they're making you feel bad? 8 year old's acting up, send him off to the shelter?

TGJ15y ago

In the short term, people get divorces and bail all the time do they not?

In the long term, I made a commitment to myself by procreating, that I would take care of the resulting child. My own honor, which feels good to uphold, keeps me with the child.

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