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0 pointstoomuchtodo7y ago0 comments

Consider that you’re depriving yourself of possible friendships because of other people’s unreasonable judgements about you without having any context.

As long as your partner is aware and okay with it, ignore what others think.

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untog7y ago

There's a certain irony that you're suggesting I disregard the opinions of strangers in order to go out and make friends with some strangers.

Until the OP mentioned it, I had no idea that Bumble had a friend finding feature. It's a dating app, its advertising shows dating as its function. So I can't say I'd blame anyone that did judge me unreasonably, to be honest. It's not necessarily that fair, but we don't get to make our own rules of social interaction.

toomuchtodoOP7y ago

The irony is not lost on me. Every stranger is a possible friend. Disregard the ones who prejudge you unnecessarily.

Life is too short to give too many f*ucks when you’re purposely optimizing for happiness while minimizing suffering you cause. Be happy, life is fleeting.

DoofusOfDeath7y ago

I think the GP's approach actually makes a lot of sense.

Affairs do happen. There's love in not giving your spouse unnecessary reason for worry.

And there's wisdom in not tooling up your phone in a way that makes moments of weakness more likely to result in an affair.

leetcrew7y ago

unfortunately what others think about you can materially affect your life.

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