Not the same, not even close.
Capital is abstracted value that everybody needs. The differences this makes in such a situation is drastically more disorienting.
>and you don't know whether they will still be there if (or when) you no longer have those qualities deemed so desirable
This phenomenon is heartbreaking and surely happens with things like talents and innate characteristics, personality, etc., but it would be very rare with those compared to with capital. When it concerns capital, the issue becomes exponentially more common with exponentially less potential to be understood. When it's happening with more people in a society, it's instances collide and fracture relationships at a far greater rate.