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Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship?

6 pointsvalueprop8y ago7 comments

Healthy male, 38, financially secure. Being depressed about not having a relationship/wife/family, doing counseling for 3 months already. Rather than focusing on what's missing, I'm working on focusing what I could do on my own.

What activities which don't depend on having a SO bring you joy?

Thanks for sharing.

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sharemywin8y ago· 1 in thread

Do you have a friend(s) you can go do things with?

valuepropOP8y ago

Not really. I have 3 friends, all married with kids.

Learning new things. Making things. Making the world better in some way. Doing something I wasn't able to before. Exercise. Seeing things I've always wanted to see.

meric8y ago

Continue your journey and walk the path of becoming the best person you can be. The further you're on it, the more people want to join you for a ride. It's not uncommon for men to start a family at 45, you have time; Face your emotions and wants head on & keep going!

Neowizard8y ago

Making/building stuff. Be it home improvement or just some gizmo, it makes me feel free

In my case it's playing guitar and practicing a martial art. I like these activities because I get some time away from my SO and it has nothing to do with programming or tech so I get a break from work as well.

sharemywin8y ago

maybe join a cooking class or something like that.

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