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0 pointssho8y ago0 comments

> you don't just walk up to people and strike up a conversation

I'd like to know what world you live in where this is any kind of option. Maybe "my introvert is showing" but I don't even consider doing this. Is this abnormal?

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ggg99908y ago· 6 in thread

This is very normal in most parts of the United States but the South in particular.

ido8y ago

Normal in most English speaking countries really, at least in Canada and England from my personal experience.

Very much not the case in the German speaking countries (where i have lived since early 2005). For a time this was one of my top reasons to want to immigrate to Canada (I was already working remotely for a Canadian startup at the time).

kleiba8y ago

That probably depends greatly on where in Germany you live. Rural areas are probably more open to such interactions than big cities.

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606548y ago

Maybe in towns, but not in big cities, NY, Chicago, LA, or even smaller ones like SF. Most of the time, if you try to strike up a conversation with a stranger, like trying to chat to someone you don't know on the train for example, they will be polite but not engage - and they will probably assume you're trying to sell them something etc.

cocktailpeanuts8y ago

Not so much in crowded cities, such as NY, SF, etc.

nir8y ago

Never lived in SF but it definitely happens in NYC all the time. Not some deep conversation perhaps but people exchange small talk with strangers on the subway, in parks, cafes etc.

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ggg99908y ago

It may be personality differences but I went to dinner with a guy's parents and a couple of other friends less than a month after meeting him in the NYC subway.

mathgeek8y ago

"Guy who talks to the person sitting next to him on the plane" here. One of two things happen when you strike up a conversation with a strange: it abruptly ends and you go back to silence, or you learn a bit about someone else and get outside of yourself for a time. Either one is perfectly acceptable.

Baeocystin8y ago

Really? I consider myself pretty introverted in that nine times out of ten I'd rather be alone in my off time, but when I'm out and about doing things during the day, I wind up chatting with at least a few folks every day. Usually this is just for a few minutes, but it is not uncommon at all to meet someone with enough shared interests to have a real conversation. This is considered normal behavior, and no one would bat an eye at it. It's like that across most of the US.

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