2. It only takes freeing a tree with a few thousand nodes for it to become an issue. It happens in C++, too (heck, there've been cases where chained destructor calls overflowed the stack [1]). The reason why you don't hear more about it is because pause times just aren't that big a deal for most applications. In forum debates, people always discuss triple A video games and OS kernels and such, but in practice, only a minority of programmers actually have to deal with something even approaching hard real time requirements. Generally, most applications optimize more for throughput rather than pause times.
3. Yes, and it can be a problem for C/C++, too. It's rare, but not non-existent. Note that pools can actually make fragmentation worse for long-running processes.
4. Weak references work if you get them right. But for long-running processes, even a single error can accumulate over time.
> On the GC side, it seems like you typically get bursty, unpredictable performance, in both time and memory. Modern GCs work very hard to keep collection pauses as short as possible, but almost inevitably that means keeping garbage around for longer, which means using a lot of memory.
This ... is not at all how garbage collectors work, especially where real time is concerned. Not even remotely. I recommend "The Garbage Collection Handbook" (the 2011 edition) for a better overview. And ultra-low pause times are generally more of an opt-in feature, because they're rarely needed.
[1] E.g. Herb Sutter's talk at C++Con 2016: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfmTagWcqoE&t=16m23s
