As both write software as part of their pursuits, I asked them what got them into software.
They referred to one single experience that started them on their paths. Funny as they have a large generation gap and went to different schools.
They told me about this robot they had in school. You would program steps (move forward 1 step... turn left 90 degrees.. move forward 10 steps.. etc.) and it would action them. They both became obsessed with it because in their eyes they were communicating with something and it was responding in a predictable and literal way. Both stated they found the predictability of software comforting.
I asked about software, and they said they would still recommend physical toys. Their reasoning was, even though they struggle with social skills, learning from apps would have further forced them to remain indoors.. reclusive.. Having a physical toy meant they were forced to interact with other people and learn from it.
You have Autistic son, so you'll understand his personality better than me. But if he shares the same traits as my siblings, then perhaps getting one of those toys will help.
Lastly, it warms my heart that you're taking his situation into account. It's controversial, but Autism can become a disability. But it can also become a trait which benefits someone in a way non-autistic people could ever attain. Apologies if this is patronising, but having an autistic child can be difficult, but it sounds like you're on a better than worse path. :)
My observation based on limited anecdotal evidence is that an interest in video games does not correlate to an interest in programming among children (or adults). Video games seem like fun to a lot of people and programming only seems like fun to a very few people.
Good luck.
Don't necessarily force everything on him at once, but fragments might stick.
My dad got me hooked on (ultimately) electronics with one simple circuit maybe age 6 (maybe younger) that broke my expectations of what 'boring' batteries and lights and switches would do.
In some ways I echo the parent comment. I naturally wanted to know how my computer functioned and well..my games too. That cant really be forced to a kid..itd just be a chore.
What an obvious realization that I hadn't thought about, lol. I guess I could wait, but I am thinking of pushing him (lol) to developing interests for possible occupations that I know that can be reliably done independently where verbal expression of language is not primarily essential, but not manual labor. I can wait too and see if he bites or drop hints to see whether he develops slow interest.
In terms of occupations, who knows what programming will be like in fifteen years? In 2002, most people would not have expected pair programming and two pizza teams or Github's social coding to be mainstream methodologies.
There's great medical improvement in treating autism, especially in US - my simple understanding of those advancements is that they try to remove cause of autism which in many cases seems to be related to brain being damaged by toxins.
Wish your son lots of health! And fun quality time with you :-)
Maybe will like this book as a gift ;]
His addiction sounds like he wants to do better and better each time. Perhaps learning a language and being able to read/write/speak more and more might fit with him.
I suggest you look into 2xe resources. This sounds like my oldest child, until we figured out how to get him adequate accommodation. A child who is both gifted and has challenges is often enormously frustrated. They tend to go for the only thing that works to get them some relief from the boredom of a bright mind trapped behind barriers and treated like they are dumb.
I also will recommend that instead of trying to find him a non-language outlet that you focus on helping him overcome his receptive and expressive disorders enough to adequately connect with the world around him. This was the approach I took.
I addressed individual pieces of the puzzle. I got him to learn to talk through things. I taught grammar, vocabulary, typing, and all the different pieces of how to write separately. We homeschooled for a long time and the first five years, he was incredibly resistant to writing anything. I did as much as possible without requiring him to actually write (other than working some on his handwriting). Then he discovered FanFiction.net and wrote several thousand words the first few days.
It is important for the child to be interested. That is the motive. But a 2xe child also needs help overcoming a lot of different barriers.
I have sympathy for what you want to do here and why, but I think you have a lot different things backwards.
My son has a tremendous interest in video games. He blogs about it and he has taken up modding games, but it has taken a long time to get here. I know a little html and css and I was able to explain coding to him in a way that made sense to him. He already knew a little html because of some forum he participated in. When they changed what was available, he kept using the font colors and other effects he liked because he had memorized the code. He didn't yet understand that was "coding."
I don't remember the discussion he and I had about all that, but I do remember it was a big deal to him.
There are lots of things that can help kids like this. You haven't really given the kind of information that would allow me to tell you specific things you could try. But, generally, you want to try to help him overcome his weaknesses enough such that they don't prevent him from doing what he wants, help him finds ways to get around things he just can't do (because they often aren't actually pertinent anyway) and support his interests.
I found it really helpful to do personality profiles and learn about learning styles. Instead of treating my son as a handicapped child who couldn't do "normal" things, I treated him as an interesting, quirky kid who needed a custom fit approach. I think this generally works better and gets better results. I also think it is a more accurate concept for people who are different.
If you haven't heard of Temple Grandin, I suggest you google her and start reading books and articles by/about her. She is autistic and also very accomplished. Another good resource is the book "Children with Emerald Eyes."