Given the assumption that there are large numbers of intelligent species out there (the universe is vast), unless the Great Filter guarantees that 100% (not 99%, or 99.9%, but 100%) of intelligent species will self-destruct, then these two theories are not mutually exclusive.
Due to the size of the universe (100 billion stars in this galaxy alone), remote possibility has to be treated as absolute certainty, this is why dark forest is such a sound theory.