> And this is a (mainly) hacker community -who are not known for their politeness-

And you hold this up as an ideal rather than something we can improve upon? Tone matters.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

> Be civil. Don't say things you wouldn't say in a face-to-face conversation. Avoid gratuitous negativity.

If you want to act differently than in real life, this is not the site.