Stop me when you recognize this one: "Hey your product is great, but we really want something that does [totally different thing]. If you just add that thing, we will pay for all the NRE and you can sell it to others as part of your product! Win win!" Advice to junior developers: If you hear such talk in the hallway, RUN!
P.S. "Are you" is not directed to the OP but to the business owners/leaders that don't know what they are doing.
On the other hand, when they ask for something off the roadmap, we get into more complex issues (is this market-demand data, or custom work?) Particularly for grunt-level custom work (say, adding a support for tracking data on a niche wearable device that we don't currently support) there's a lot more questions that follow.
One of the most insidious of the latter, IMO, is that if it's just for one contract, then we're either hiring contractors/outsources (expensive, high management overhead), hiring new engineers (risky to grow headcount on a whim), or redirecting resources to tasks that are likely to have both lower ROI and provide lower growth for the re-tasked engineer. At our small size and need for high-quality people, I consider this to be a real cost too.
He also added that if you're a product shop doing less than 70% off-the-shelf, you're probably screwed, while 90% off the shelf is really the ideal (again, enterprise software).
I think the more interesting question is "what counts as professional services?" This gets much trickier, for example when you start building out APIs to make second- or third-party integrations easier, is that "product" or "professional services"? It certainly seems like product building, but if you're doing for a customer's use, it gets real blurry real fast. If you're not using that API internally, you're almost certainly on the professional services side. If you do use it internally, is it rock solid enough that you can support and expose it without that support becoming professional services?
Drawing sharp lines aside, this all probably seems kind of trivial, but the first time I ran through our product design with him and we discussed this, I went back and radically re-thought a lot of our strategy, particularly at the customer interfaces.
That was part of the problem: the sales people couldn't push back on most requests because they were often quite reasonable. When they were more demanding, it was usually from a large prospective buyer so we had to bend over backwards.
The result was that we had huge tasks to do with no (current) revenue, and small tasks to do that took 10x as long as they should have. Since servicing existing revenue streams (even on reasonable requests) became so time-consuming, handling big enterprise demands became totally untenable.
And it was one line of code, after several hundred lines had been torn out and rearranged to ensure that different clients could insert their own pictures of different sizes without everything exploding. The whole team was desperately trying to force enough flexibility into the software that one-line changes could be made in <10 lines, instead of >100.
It was enterprise sales, so customization was unavoidable, but no one was differentiating between big and small changes, or big and small buyers. The product was desperately struggling to do ~3 things at once, and still being sold to potential buyers on the promise of a fourth thing it would do "soon".
The last one even spun off a dedicated team that built (hacked) prototype customs in order to secure sales, then threw away the prototype and, after collecting the commission, told the new customers that it would take several years to get what they just saw in production but in the meantime we can do our existing product with some mods.
I imagine the pressure to accept these deals is immense though. Why let an innocuous little feature request hold up such a great deal?