Look, you're complaining against the fact that 'racism' is more narrowly defined than just gender discrimination and requires privilege to enforce/reinforce the latter for it to be considered the former. How hard is it really to adjust to a more finicky definition?

Or are you denying that when backed up by a prevalent privilege (or an inverse stereotype), all other things being equal, discrimination becomes more damaging (and harder to withstand)?

No one is denying that plain discrimination is still ugly, after all.