This is what I find troubling about Elm.
The creators see it appropriate to enforce their strange preferences with dubious reasoning. The enforcement (in standard Elm format) of a 4-sized tab[1] is just another example.
Like you said I'd not have the language community enforce what is acceptable down my throat, and that conflict of preferences within a team is best solved by making style guidelines instead of having the language community spoon-feed an authoritarian preference.
[1] https://github.com/avh4/elm-format/issues/210