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0 pointstdkl9y ago0 comments

>it just appeared like we drifted apart.

And that's life. Perhaps you weren't that close enough anyway to find about the child. And that's life too.

The notion of "being connected" with all the people you knew is is similar then the "I need to be happy, if not something is wrong with me" and got introduced with modern social media (particularly Facebook).

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maus429y ago· 1 in thread

But is it easier to 'drift apart' from people you know if you're the only one they need to remember specifically call or send email to, when they can in general assume that all their friends sort of follow their FB updates? But it's awkward if you're the only one who keeps contacting them.

If you have already hard time building very durable friendships and are sort of hang-around member of your social circles, the social media -- if you refuse to use it -- does not exactly make your life easier.

tdklOP9y ago

Yeah, the social media caters to peoples laziness (hence "connect to all the people you know easier"). But this connection is very shallow and as you said if you're the only one who is trying to maintain a connection apart from consuming "social broadcasts", well, then the relationship is destined to drift apart.

I guess it's a matter of personal preference, I rather have 3 good connections then 10 (not to mention 100, which is ridiculous) shallow ones and when we randomly see each other, there's no "guilt" looming around the meeting.

IMHO this coincides with two recent HN posts about accepting mediocrity [1] and stopping to eternally seek happiness [2].

[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12335367

[2] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12345608

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