Totally agree with everything else, but gotta completely disagree on this last point. Monorepos are a huge smell. If there's multiple parts of a repo that are deployed independently, they should be isolated from each other.
Why? Because you're fighting human nature, otherwise. It's totally reasonable to think that once you excise some code from a repo that it's no longer there, but when you have multiple projects all in one repo, different services will be on different versions of that repo, and your change may have changed semantics enough that interaction bugs across systems may occur.
You may think that you caught all of the services using the code you refactored in that shared library, but perhaps an intermediate dependency switched from using that shared library to not using it, and the service using that intermediate library hasn't been upgraded, yet?
When separately-deployable components are in separate repositories, and libraries are actual versioned libraries in separate repositories these relationships are explicit instead of implicit. Explicit can be `grep`ed, implicit cannot, so with the multi-repo approach you can write tools to verify that all services currently in production are no longer using an older, insecure shared library, or find out exactly which services are talking to which services by the IDLs they list as dependencies.
While with the monorepo approach you can get "fun" things like service A inspecting the source code of service B to determine if cache should be rebuilt (because who would forget to deploy service A and service B at the same time, anyways...), as an example I have personally experienced.
My personal belief is that the monorepo approach was a solution back when DVCSs were all terrible and most people were still on centralized VCSs like Subversion that couldn't deal with branches and cross-repo dependencies well, and that's just what you had to do, while Git and Mercurial, along with the nice language-level package managers, make this a non-issue.
Finally, there's an institutional bias to not rock the boat (which I totally agree with) and change things that are already working fine, along with a "nobody got fired buying IBM" kind of thing with Google and Facebook being two prominent companies using monorepos (which they can get away with by having over a thousand engineers each to manage the infrastructure and build/rebuild their own VCSs to deal with the problems inherent to monorepos that most companies don't have the resources and/or skills to replicate).
EDIT: Oh, I forgot, I'm not advocating a service-oriented architecture as the only way to do things, I'm just advocating that whatever your architecture, you should isolate the deployables from each other and make all dependencies between them explicit, so you can more easily write tooling to automatically catch bad deploy states, and more easily train new hires on what talks to/uses what, since it's explicitly (and required to be) documented.
If that still means a monorepo for your company's single service and a couple of tiny repos for small libraries you open source, that's fine. If it means 1000 repos for each microservice you deploy multiple times a day, that's also fine (good luck!).
Most likely it means something like 3-10 repos for most companies, which seems like the right range for Miller's Law) ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Magical_Number_Seven,_Plus... ) and therefore good for organizing code for human consumption.