I don't think I quite agree with this, but I agree with something similar I suppose : Power comes from submission. (sorta)

I believe that one can be under an authority which one does not choose to submit to. (relating more to how people should act than how they do act, compared to power)

But, perhaps this is just using words differently without necessarily much disagreement about the actual things.

By your comment I am reminded of a dialogue "How to quit smoking" on self-control, which argues that self-control is more due to obedience than it is to "willpower". This dialogue seems to make sense to me. (http://existentialcomics.com/comic/13)

Regarding your last paragraph: I don't know that I know how that last bit is applicable. In order to not have the fork happen, the difference would be people not running the fork code, or alternatively running some slightly different code that handles the fact that some people are running the fork but is otherwise basically unchanged. This code already exists. As such, I'm not sure what you are really saying by this paragraph, other than, basically "suck it up"?