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0 pointsmillstone10y ago0 comments

"Hating others for being happy?" Where the hell did that come from?

I resent my peers being given visibly unequal treatment. It's no different than if some engineers get free lunches and others did not. I guarantee you there's onsite engineers in Coinbase who feel the same way.

As for "improving my own working conditions," that's exactly what I did, by quitting that job and taking one with a co-located team, and I'm much happier because of it.

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RyanZAG10y ago· 2 in thread

So you're happier now because everyone else has to suffer in the same way. You still have to sit in traffic. You still have to sit in the noisy room. Nothing has changed for you. You're just happy now because you can't see other people who are avoiding it?

Let me repeat it again - for you, nothing at all has changed except that other people around you are also suffering. Your attitude is awful.

If someone came tomorrow to your office and gave a million dollars to each of your team members and $10K to you, you would resent your team members for receiving more money than you, right? People like that are only happy to see others clawed down to their own level.

millstoneOP10y ago

I'm happier now because I no longer have to deal with the issues in my top-level post. I spend less time being blocked, and I am more effective at unblocking other people. Yes, commutes and open offices suck. But the team as a whole is better off if we sit together, and that makes it worth it to me. I prefer to work with people who feel the same way.

That there's no (visibly) unequal treatment is definitely part of it. I want to work for an employer that I believe is fair.

> If someone came tomorrow to your office and gave a million dollars to each of your team members and $10K to you, you would resent your team members for receiving more money than you, right?

I take it you're a fan of Jeb's tax plan.

andrewvc10y ago

Dude, I hear your protests, but your attitude really does suck. Life isn't fair. The sooner you learn to be happy for others versus trying to keep score the more people will like you.

You sound very bitter. I hope you find what you need to cure that, but please don't pollute hacker news with your sour grapes. I'm sure there's a nice person underneath that veneer and I hope you can find a way to be that person more often.

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