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0 pointswallflower16y ago0 comments

Like in tennis, the point is not to try to hit a winner when the question gets asked but to stay in the game. Volley it back by focusing on something you'd like to know about her.

For example:

Her: "What do you do for a living?"

You: "I write software that thousands of people use every day to get their own jobs done. And my real passion is cooking. I love French cooking from scratch.(pause)What do you enjoy doing?"

Her: "What do you do for a living?"

You: "I write software. Office politics aside, I like the creative aspect of building something up, from a blank screen in my editor to something that people actually use on the Internet.(pause). What do you do to exercise your creativity?"

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riahi16y ago· 1 in thread

This sounds like a med school interview, in all honesty.

"So tell me about yourself"

wallflowerOP16y ago

Exactly. That is a very difficult question. And the key is to answer it in a way that pertains to the interviewer's goals (which for a girl meeting a guy might be: does he have a life, will my friends like him, is he interesting).

As Jerry Seinfeld says, a date is a job interview.

yosho16y ago

Seriously? That's the best you guys can do?

Just treat dating as anything else you'd like to improve upon. Do your research, understand the end goal, and follow people who are better than you.

When she asks what you do for a living you can respond:

"I'm actually a porn star stunt double, but on the weekends I'll do a little programming here and there"

And then smile. It's all in the delivery, Cocky and funny gets the job done.

euccastro16y ago

Or, more to the point: "I program computers to do my bidding. Great fun to do, boring to talk about." Then unapologetically move on to something more there-and-then-worthy, using any cues to --as parent suggests-- give her a chance to talk about herself and (esp.) her interests.

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