They came about from looking at the philosophical problem of "What is a field"? A field between two interacting electrons changes the electrons trajectory.
OK... but what does it mean for the electrons to "interact"? Saying "there's a field" is just a circular argument.
The better response is "they exchange a photon". OK, but is the photon real? No... it's just a place-holder to make calculations easier.
Do two electrons actually exchange virtual photons? No one really knows... All we can say is that the theoretical calculations match the experimental ones. What that means is a question for philosophers. :)
> They are obviously "communicating" somehow. The mechanism is simply unknown.
The mechanism is the "virtual particles". Whether those particles have physical existence is a question physicists avoid.
The best answer is that the model (i.e. the explanation for reality) matches reality.
Does this mean that the model accurately and correctly describes the underlying mechanism for communication? The best answer to that is "Yes, so far as we can tell".
And then virtual particles and other interactions make a lot more sense. They are just other configurations.
My new understanding might not be correct but this article has certainly opened my eyes and suddenly a lot of previous things make a lot more sense!
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There are several ways to implement the laws of physics. Virtual particles are an implementation detail, you can factor them out of the code, but it makes it a bit more readable.