Most of these are primarily tools that can be used without being a Ruby programmer (even if treating the DSLs as black magic is worrisome). Rails is popular but despite how vocal its users tend to be it's not as widely used as you may think it is. Ruby is disproportionately widely recognized considering its actual "market share" (just like e.g. Haskell).
> replace Ruby with any programming language and the statement it's true. human beings just work this way.
Different programming language communities are different. I've met plenty of dispassionate PHP, C#, Java and JS programmers. I've yet to meet a Ruby programmer who doesn't hold the opinion that Ruby is the best thing since sliced Jesus, every language should always be replaced with Ruby and that Ruby is pretty damn close to perfect. I haven't met any dispassionate Python programmers either, but they tend to be far more nuanced about their opinion of Python.
Heck, the Ruby community came up with Haml so it could pretend to write Ruby when writing HTML, Sass (proper Sass, not the new-fangled more conservative SCSS) so it could pretend to write Ruby when writing CSS and CoffeeScript so it could pretend to write Ruby when writing JS. They even use Ruby for configuration files "because DSLs are easier" (unless you don't know Ruby).
Let's also not forget that the reason Codes of Conduct for conferences (and even open source projects) had to become a thing (e.g. the brogrammer culture) primarily originated in the Ruby community (before it spread to others). And also the entire _whytheluckystiff and Zed Shaw dramas.
You can fish for equivalents to these things in other communities but the scale and ubiquity is simply exceptional in the Ruby community. Just like PHP is exceptional in how much bad PHP code there is, Ruby is exceptional in what its community is like.
> People think they have all the answers, when in reality the experience of each individual is unique.
I'm not sure why you think we disagree about this. That's precisely what I'm saying: that Ruby programmers tend to love Ruby doesn't mean it's always the right choice for teaching absolute beginners.
